TL;DR: I’m looking for a monogamous relationship with someone who shares my sense of humor, curiosity about the world, and excitement to have kids someday. :)

Hey! My name’s Grace—it’s lovely to meet you! To start off this doc, here’s some info about who I am and where I might be going:

I recently graduated from undergrad and am currently interviewing for CS PhDs!

I care a lot about a lot of things, but two of my values feel the most ‘fundamental’ to who I am: a) doing my best to reduce suffering in the world, and b) love + family.

More about me:

I have a pretty wide array of interests!

• I geek out about machine learning, meditation, arthouse movies, Lindy Hop swing dance, alternative education, brutalist architecture, and sometimes fantasize about living on a farm…

I grew up in a values-based community.

• I was raised in the Unitarian Universalist (UU) Church, which might be best described (in my opinion) as a “liberal spiritual community for retired hippies”.
• My UU upbringing shaped me in a lot of ways—most notably, the adults around me during my childhood had a pretty radical degree of faith in UU’s core principle: ‘the inherent worth and dignity of every person’.

I care deeply about making the world a better place and living in alignment with my values.

• I find the amount of suffering in the world pretty upsetting, and it feels important to help however I can.
• I found out about Effective Altruism after googling something along the lines of “how to help others the most” when I was 13, read “Doing Good Better” the summer after my freshman year of high school, and have been involved in EA ever since.
  • I don’t think EA is ‘the answer’ for how to help others or live an ethical life, though! (In my personal/daily life, trying to be a good person has had very little to do with EA and much more to do with ‘what would my grandma + the buddha think’. :)

I love kids + love to teach :)

• During high school, I taught elementary and middle school students to code for fun.
• When I’m not fantasizing about living on a farm (or becoming a buddhist monk, or being a stay-at-home mom, or…) I often fantasize about starting my own school.
  • (Aside: What does the ideal early-childhood education actually look like? Is it Montessori? Just a lot of creating/writing/math? Or should kids just learn to use tools and build stuff? —such an interesting question!)

What my friends say about me:

• “Grace has this relentless way of seeing the endless potential in people, not ever judging by who they may appear to be. My observations have been that she is brave, unyielding, tenacious, funny, observant, perplexing, caring.”
• “At every single party that I go to with Grace, I look over and she is having a deep and intellectual multi-hour conversation with someone who I didn't think was interesting, and then I join and realize they are interesting.”
• “One of the most bearable and humane persons I have ever encountered.”

What am I looking for in a partner?

Curiosity + intellectual excitement.

• I think the world’s a pretty fascinating/awe-inspiring place, and there’s nothing I enjoy more in life than trying to understand it better with someone else.
• I find intellectual excitement pretty attractive/endearing—my first celebrity crushes were on the hosts of the 3blue1brown and The Coding Train YouTube channels :)

Sense of humor!